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29
Jun

Conquering Petty Tyrants

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Question:

I fought a rather fierce battle against a petty tyrant at work and finally won the battle! The petty tyrant resigned from my place of work and left this week. Yet I feel that I have somehow lost something I cannot put words to. Could you please help me see what I am missing here?

Théun’s Answer:

And you are right! You HAVE lost something. But it is hard to verbalise. Yet I will try, even though I already KNOW that the WORDS will do NO justice to what is essentially the ineffable.

You have lost your petty tyrant. Strange as it may seem, the sense of LOSS in losing a petty tyrant is FAR greater than losing a true friend! A friend is someone one loves and cares for, and vice versa. So plus-minus, give-and-take a little here and there, the relationship with a true friend is a RECIPROCAL relationship and therefore EQUALISED, or BALANCED, if you will! :) But a petty tyrant is THE greatest ASSET we can ever have, for a petty tyrant FORCES one to achieve heights and strengths which one would otherwise NEVER have been capable of! In other words, whilst a true friend will NOT support one in one’s weaknesses, yet his love is SO very UNCONDITIONAL that the friendship is always, at best AND at worst, COMFORTING! Yet, not so with a petty tyrant. A petty tyrant hones in on one’s weaknesses, and tries to gain the upper hand by acting upon them! A petty tyrant’s approach towards one is thoroughly CONDITIONAL, that is, “Either YOU perish, or I perish, for there is NOT space for BOTH of us!” Furthermore, and MOST importantly, in order to SURVIVE the relentless onslaughts from a petty tyrant one is FORCED into moving the assemblage point to the Point of No Pity, a very SOBERING point at which to be!

But if you are strong enough, then one day it is over because YOU have won! Yet as you are warned in the teachings, there are NO victims in this world, and neither are there victors! There is a PRICE to pay for both losing AND winning! At the end of the day the ONLY thing that matters is WHAT one has learned, and the FACT that life was over all too quickly for both victim and victor alike! A most poignant truth. In the final analysis, how does one EQUALISE a relationship that was a matter of life and death between the two people concerned? How does one say thank-you to the one who tried to annihilate one? How does one PAY the price of having been FORCED by one’s oppressor into claiming one’s power until one could annihilate one’s oppressor? How does one celebrate victory? One can at best REJOICE in one’s good fortune at having found a petty tyrant to teach one what a true friend can NEVER really teach one! :(

Y, my dear friend, perhaps for the first time in your life you are now in a position to grasp, even if just a little, what Christ meant when he said that there is no law greater than the Law of Love! :) Something for which I have no words is when I hear people speak of the BAD ones, like for example, a Judas. I am always left speechless, and I have to turn my head away to hide the tears! In order for the Christ message to have been delivered unto humanity Christ HAD to be betrayed by a TRUSTED one! Why this is so is a technicality we do not need to enter into here and now. Suffice it to say that Christ HAD to be betrayed! So, yes, as we have all been taught, BAD old Judas just happened to have been the one to DO the dirty work! But ask yourself these questions, “What is love? Who on that fateful day made the greatest sacrifice - Christ, the Son of God, or Judas who betrayed the Son of God? Whose love for humanity was the greatest - Christ’s, or Judas’? Or did they BOTH pay a terrible price - a price exacted by love?”

In having won against a petty tyrant you are now also required to fill your HEART with love and gratitude for ALL that your petty tyrant did for YOU! This man was destined to TEACH you in this lifetime, and this he has done IMPECCABLY and at a very HIGH cost to himself! How can you not love him with ALL of your heart for this stupendous gift? :) Look around you, Y, and REJOICE in the priceless gift of being alive! Then within your heart of hearts say deep thanks to your petty tyrant!

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27
Jun

Education versus Academic Schooling

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Question:

Théun, I don’t quite understand why you are against academic schooling. Could you please clarify your stance for me?

Théun’s Guidance:

LOL! What is YOUR perception, my friend, of the DIFFERENCE between EDUCATION and ACADEMIC SCHOOLING? :)

It is NOT that I am AGAINST schools, or academic subjects! On the contrary, I am all FOR a proper ACADEMIC EDUCATION, as opposed to mere SCHOOLING!

Are you aware of the fact that today students are no longer REQUIRED, let alone EXPECTED to be able to spell? Do you know why? Because computers have spell-checkers! LOL! Likewise are students no longer being taught grammar, because computers have grammar checks! Students are no longer required to LEARN to count, other than in Grade 1 and Grade 2. After that they are taught to use a CALCULATOR to do arithmetic! What kind of education is this? It is SHOCKING to say the least! Do you KNOW the ILLITERACY rate in the world today amongst students that have ATTENDED ten years at formal schools? Check it, my friend, for you would NEVER believe me if I were to give you the statistics! But just to give you an idea I will speak for so-called education in South Africa today, but believe me, it is EQUALLY rampant in MOST of the world, especially in the USA!

In South Africa today children are NOT ALLOWED to fail major examinations! If the AVERAGE is too low for a PASS, the required pass-mark is LOWERED to ensure that the MAXIMUM of students are passed! Universities are no longer ALLOWED to turn away students because of POOR academic understanding or grasp! Instead they are FORCED to accept AND pass a certain number of students every year, simply to “correct” the so-called imbalance that has been blamed upon politics alone! Today in South Africa we have doctors, lawyers, teachers, dentists and you name it, that would NEVER have passed a normal school examination if it were not for so-called black empowerment! I am sure you can imagine the resultant chaos? I am sure you can understand the implications in a black judge that has been appointed to the court because of political correctness? I am sure you can imagine how many THOUSANDS of people are suffering under the “care” of doctors that have been appointed for political reasons? I am sure you can imagine the state of academic education when schools are forced to employ teachers that are hopelessly unqualified to teach?

THINK, my friend, and OPEN your eyes! We do NOT live in YESTER-YEAR! The world has gone mad, and formal education reflects VIVIDLY humanity’s IGNORANCE! So the question is, “WHAT are we going to DO about education?”

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23
Jun

Address To The Vladivostok Congress, September 2003 by Théun Mares

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Address by Théun Mares

Delivered To The Vladivostok Congress September 2003

“Globalisation: Interaction of Economics, Cultures, Technologies and Nature”

THE POWERFUL PLANETARY EVENTS WHICH TEND TO ALTER
FOR EVER THE COURSE OF HISTORY DO NOT ORIGINATE FROM
MAN. THESE EVENTS ARE THE RESULTS OF MIGHTY COSMIC
FORCES INTRODUCED INTO OUR SYSTEM BY THE PLANETARY
BEING. IT IS THE TASK OF SEERS TO PREDICT THE PROBABLE
OUTCOME OF SUCH EVENTS, AND TO MAKE THE NECESSARY
ADJUSTMENTS WITHIN THE COLLECTIVE PLANETARY
AWARENESS, SO AS TO ENABLE ALL OF LIFE TO MEET HEADLONG
THE CHALLENGES POSED BY THESE FORCES.

On 13th June 1995, unbeknown to the vast majority of humanity, there occurred what has been to date perhaps the most significant full moon in the history of humanity. On that day all life upon this planet entered an unprecedented era. Although man in general is as yet oblivious to the momentous changes which took place on that full moon, he has nevertheless been catapulted into an experience which is already begun to materialise its effects upon the physical plane. These effects will gradually become clear for all to see, and it will be then that man will recognise for himself that his old and comfortably-familiar world is now slipping away rapidly.

This is a new age in which time can no longer be measured in years, for the radical changes that have been initiated are precipitating a vastly different world, which is coming into existence hour by hour, day by day. Mighty forces of the universe, of which humanity is wholly unaware, have been brought into alignment, to focus upon our world, and through the effect of these forces a new humanity is being moulded.

The great wheel of evolution has turned and, in turning, it has brought man back to a cross road first encountered in that far-distant time when life flourished upon the ancient continent of Atlantis. Today man must face and bring to a conclusion that which was initiated eighteen million years ago. Therefore, what esotericists have through the times termed ‘The Dawn of the New Age’, is in fact also ‘The Day of Reckoning’ predicted by the prophets of doom. This was the day that was marked by the full moon of June 1995.

It is not the end of the world as this has been commonly understood, nor is it the New Age as it has been anticipated, but this day did mark the end of the known world and the beginning of a time in which a new world is even now being established. At a time when world turmoil, economic instability, confusion and emotional hysteria seem to have become the norm, it is no longer easy for men and women to discern with any certainty what is transpiring in the world today. The current sophistication and freedom of the news media, coupled with the advent of television and the worldwide web, have not only brought world events and extraordinary thinking into the homes of millions of people the world over, but have also contributed towards an ever- increasing prejudice based upon separative views and a lack of the much needed knowledge of universal law. Exposed to snippets of information, which are often ingeniously put together in such a way as to prove a fashionable concept, men and women every where are today being bombarded by all manner of political, socio-economic and ethico-religious theories, expounded by an alarming number of misguided individuals - individuals who more often than not are the unconscious victims of a personal inner drive to promote their own self-importance and their own self-centred goals.
In order to gain a proper understanding of what is being offered here as an explanation of what is really taking place in the world today, it will help to accept for the purposes of this presentation that the world is not what it appears to be. I ask that you accept this, not as a statement of fact, but merely as a working hypothesis.

There is much within the unseen realms of life upon this planet, and for that matter within the universe, which evades the comprehension of man’s foremost thinkers, and even of the Toltecs’ most able seers. Notwithstanding this, Toltecs nevertheless do have at their disposal enough knowledge and personal experience with which to challenge a great many of the haphazard theories currently being put forward by a lot of man’s present-day politicians, economists, prophets and spiritual teachers.

Who are the Toltecs? Toltecs are men and women of knowledge who have laboured behind the scenes throughout the ages since time immemorial, researching, collating and safe-guarding humanity’s heritage in the form of oral teachings that have been handed down from one generation to the next. Toltecs have ever known that the Toltec teachings are the property of no one man or group of people, but are the common heritage of all of mankind. It has therefore always been an unequivocal fact amongst Toltecs that once man has come of age he will have to be instructed in taking charge of his awesome inheritance. This day has dawned, and it is for this reason that Toltecs are once again stepping forward to draw man’s attention to his natural heritage, and in the process also inevitably challenging much of what is today regarded as constituting truth and the future of the world and of all life upon this planet.

The first step in this process is relatively simple, but the effects of introducing man to his divine birthright are profoundly significant. By being able to compare present world knowledge with his natural heritage, man will at last be able to discriminate wisely, and thus will the one true light emerge, sweeping all before it into the much-needed transformation within every sphere of human endeavour if humanity is to survive the dire challenges facing it today in terms of political upheaval, rapidly deteriorating social values and standards, and even more importantly, the imminent collapse of the world’s economy.

The writing is on the wall, and yet the vast majority of humanity is stubbornly refusing to acknowledge the inevitable. The United States of America has been playing Big Brother to the rest of the world for so long, and have so enforced its values, it beliefs, its prejudices, and ultimately its justifications for domination and control upon just about every nation on this planet through its brute economic strength, that world conditions have reached a critical momentum that is about to swing the pendulum the other way. The on-going war in Iraq is the beginning of this process.

The United States of America can no longer deny that the invasion of Iraq was not so as to protect the rest of the world against the use of nuclear arms, but was instead a justification for its greed to gain even more economic and political power through the resources of oil. This was clear to start with, and yet humanity as a whole, because of its sense of apathy and helplessness on the one hand, and its complacency and willful ignorance on the other hand, has been content to sit back and to allow the United States to take this action, an action, the backlash of which, is going to hit us all. Because of the manner in which the United States of America has been conducting its economy that economy is today in dire straights, and it is therefore most unlikely that the American economy is going to survive the guerilla warfare in Iraq. The pendulum must and will swing in order to restore balance to the world economy, but when it does swing the American economy will collapse, and because the rest of the world has become so dependent upon the American economy in so many ways, this collapse will hit us all.

The full moon on 13th June 1995 marked the beginning of this age, an age which Toltecs look upon as humanity having come of age, in the sense that men and women everywhere are now being faced with the challenge of having to fight for themselves, and by themselves as individuals that are now responsible enough to no longer need a Big Brother to do it for them. If humanity is going to survive the imminent and dire economic challenge facing us all, then it is going to have to have at its disposal the required tools that will enable men and women the world over to fight the correct battle.

To come of age is no simple affair, because it entails understanding one’s true purpose in life, and the acceptance of one’s responsibility to oneself, to one’s family, one’s society, one’s race, and ultimately to the world around one. This is a point of critical importance, for it is only the absolute bigot that still stubbornly holds onto the belief that it is possible to survive without the well-being of the greater whole. Every sane human being today is fully aware of the fact that all of life is thoroughly interrelated, and because it is interrelated, everyone and everything is one hundred percent interactive and interdependent. It is therefore utter madness to persist with the demented idea that we can act without effecting the world around us, and conversely, that the actions of others do not have a direct impact upon us all. This is true of the individual, and it is equally true of business and economics, science, education, religion and politics.

If we are to achieve clarity on this issue when viewing humanity as a whole it is important to realise that Toltecs have always mirrored for man his own evolutionary progress. This in effect means that the history of Toltecs is in reality the history of mankind. Therefore, the disastrous outcome of the ancient civilization of Atlantis, as well as its reflections across the subsequent millenniums, is but the profile of humanity itself, and Toltec history should accordingly be viewed as the mirror-image of the unseen influences that have dictated the course of history. To bring this into perspective, let us briefly summarise the position of Toltecs, since they reflect how humanity as a whole stands today.

Toltecs are men and women who wield a great deal of power, but Toltecs also have to abide by the laws of universal evolution. The warrior’s command is indeed the command of the Unspeakable, but this does not mean that the warrior commands and the Unspeakable obeys - it means that the warrior understands and knows the purpose of the Unspeakable, and so follows the dictums of power. It is possible to turn one’s back upon universal law and to ignore the purpose of the Unspeakable, but to do so is to repeat the mistakes of Atlantis and to stray onto the path of the black arts. Many a Toltec has erred in this way, and today millions of people the world over likewise walk the path of black magic, even though they may claim innocence. In the days of Atlantis those who practiced the black arts were known as sorcerers, and their desired goal was to achieve having as much power over the lives of others as possible. Today such people are still with us, and their desire to control and dominate the lives of others is no different to that of their Atlantean predecessors, except that today their practices are not termed sorcery, but goes under the benign sounding name of a political democracy that claims to support the economic prosperity of all concerned.

Yet the time has come for us all to clearly state where we place our allegiance. No longer can we pretend, or sit on the fence, or procrastinate. The forces which swung into full effect on 13 June 1995, and which are slowly but surely beginning to force man into making a stand for what he believes in, are no less than the forces of division demanding conscious choice and discrimination. This is so because the greatest threat facing humanity today is the same threat that first reared its ugly head in the days of Atlantis, namely, the abuse of power and the abandoning of true freedom under the guise of a so-called democracy that is a total farce. As Oscar Wilde expressed it so well, “Democracy is the bludgeoning of the people, by the people, for the people!”

As a result of the abuse of both political and economic power, there has never before in the history of man been such worldwide disunity as today. The world today is divided everywhere; churches are divided, esoteric schools of thought are divided, politicians, educationalists, medical practitioners, and even scientists, stand divided. This immense division has brought about a sense of gross separativeness, suspicion, fear and hatred, and as this takes root more and more deeply, man finds himself the victim of an ever-increasing sense of confusion and hopelessness. Abundance has given way to poverty, social well-being has been supplanted by violence, and security has been superseded by fear, as even family units are now being torn apart by the waves of segregation.

However, notwithstanding anything stated thus far, it should also be pointed out that not all of the chaos threatening the survival of humanity today is the result of the leaders of mankind. It always takes two to tango, and in this respect humanity is as guilty as any of its leaders, for humanity has been a most agreeable partner in all of what has transpired over the past couple of decades. The role which humanity itself has played, and continues to play in the current worldwide disunity is simple, but nevertheless also profound in its implications. Man has, quite simply, reached adulthood. No longer content with having to accept at face value the rules which have dictated its childhood and adolescence, humanity in general has become anti-establishment. Impatient to be heard, and anxious to flex their psychic muscles, people of all ages and from all walks of life have begun a planetary revolution against the accepted authorities of society.

This has always been the predictable and inevitable outcome of evolution, but so strong have been the effects of social conditioning that the majority of peace-loving people have, in their fear of change, always chosen to ignore the demands of the revolutionaries. However, today, as more and more people join sides with the rebels, social authority is finding it increasingly difficult to ignore the demands of these people and to keep their actions in check. Furthermore, since lack of true communication between these two factions has always been the greatest grievance, no one is any longer certain what the real issues are. Consequently, the authorities are fighting a battle to maintain a social system which even they are beginning to question, whilst the revolutionaries are fighting for a cause of which they too are no longer certain.

In this kind of situation it is hardly surprising that there has been such an upsurge of lawlessness. There have always been those people who can only be termed social dropouts, and who therefore have no particular values to offer anyone. Such people are not interested in a social order of any kind, and so will support any group which is anti-establishment, regardless of whether or not they actually believe in the ideals fostered by that group. The group in its turn, often highly emotional, and therefore lacking in clarity, and in addition feeling the heavy burden of being in the minority, will welcome without question anyone who is willing to join its cause. In this way, many a well-meaning group which has had a legitimate cause to begin with, sooner or later finds that its ranks have become infiltrated by scum, and thus the movement itself has become deflected from its original objectives. A glaring example of such well-meaning but misguided groups, are the ever more popular Trade Unions that all too often cripple the very people they are supposed to be serving.

There are also in the world today far too many individuals in all walks of life, political, economic, educational and spiritual, which have seen in this general state of confusion an opportunity to push their own ideals for selfish gain and to elevate their own self-importance. In this respect it is staggering to see the growing number of self-styled political figures, economic advisors, prophets and spiritual teachers who have emerged from out of nowhere over the past forty years or so. Admittedly some of these people have had a little knowledge to begin with but, hampered by a limited vision, and driven by an over-inflated ego, they have taken full advantage of humanity’s general sense of confusion to promote their own self-centred goals and self-worth.

In all this confusion, the deterioration of man’s belief in orthodox religion has done nothing to help the situation. No longer able to believe in the narrow-minded and thoroughly outdated teachings still being pushed by many theologians who have long since ceased to adhere to the truth within their own teachings, a great many disillusioned people are today turning elsewhere to find answers to their questions. However, not having the necessary knowledge with which to discriminate between falsehood and truth, these seekers more often than not fall prey to the highly questionable teachings of unscrupulous men and women who like to believe that they are gifted truthsayers.

Many of these self-styled truthsayers, like the overly ambitious politicians of the world, have latched onto the concept that humanity does not take kindly to the idea that the wool is being pulled over its eyes. Consequently, we find today all manner of stories which have been fabricated around the idea that somewhere there are a group of people conspiring to keep humanity in the dark. This is happening in every department of human endeavour, but most noticeably in politics, religion, and science. Since there is already in the world such a marked sense of confusion, suspicion is easily created and, consequently, whenever someone comes forward with yet another story of conspiracy, there are always those who are ready to listen, and even to believe. Although it is true that there are today many people in the world who purposely keep the true nature of their activities covert, as for example, the many officials working under the auspices of political governments, their economic powers and their armed forces, yet the only ones who are really keeping humanity in the dark is humanity itself because of always having been only to happy to hand its power over to Big Brother, instead of individuals making the necessary effort to take responsibility for their own lives and well-being.

Nevertheless, if the individual is to take responsibility for his or her own life and well-being, then it should also be acknowledged that just as it is the duty of science and religion to promote the truth, so is it also the duty of the government of any country first and foremost to ensure the safety, the well-being and the prosperity of its citizens. In this respect what really needs to happen is for government officials to acknowledge that they are the servants of the public and, as such, do not have the right to withhold information to which any member of the public should have free access. We are no longer living in an era in which every man is forced to obey his sovereign. The very essence of democracy demands that we all have an equal say with regard to our own life and future. Therefore no government, or its officials, has the right to act secretly upon confidential information that could possibly endanger public security or, for that matter, could have worldwide repercussions in the long term.

Furthermore, wherever there is a lack of communication, or a distortion of the truth for self-centred gain, an atmosphere of mistrust and suspicion is the inevitable result. Unfortunately though, politicians today all too often choose to forget this important fact, and since they can and do manipulate vast economic powers, it is unhappily also true that they normally do not find it too difficult to enforce the co-operation of even those that would normally not be willing to support such an abuse of power. The most recent example of this was the attitude and stance adopted by the government of the United States of America with respect to the invasion of Iraq.

But irrespective of who is to blame, the fact remains that the current world situation can only be reversed once people in general, irrespective of whether they are government officials, economists, or average Joe, would acknowledge that self-importance must give way to the common good of all, and that information is not the property of any one man to be used as a tool with which to manipulate and control others. Man must learn to share his information and experience and, above all, learn the art of communication, so that true democracy can come into being, and that all may participate in working towards the freedom and the well-being of all life.

With respect to the concept of sharing knowledge and therefore sharing joint responsibility for the future of life upon this planet, by far the most important point that must be stressed is that today there are far too many people in all walks of life punting and selling all manner of escapisms, so that man is encouraged to avoid taking responsibility for his own life. Such people, whether they are aware of it or not, are compounding the negative influences of social conditioning, and have no idea of what constitutes true freedom. These people, keen to feather their own nests and to line their own pockets, are for ever very busy confirming to man that he is indeed a victim of circumstance, and very much in need of outside help in order to sort out his life. However, the only help humanity needs today is guidance towards taking full responsibility for its life, its past and its future, and towards taking a firm stand on issues of true freedom. In this respect the example of the current war in Iraq is a sad testimony to man’s stubborn reluctance to accept responsibility for his life.

Looking at everything we have looked at so far from a different perspective, it is also clear to see that the world situation today is but the natural and inevitable outcome of evolution, and of the cosmic forces that have recently been introduced into our system. Therefore what we are now looking at as being a potential disaster is in fact our fleeting moment of chance. Contrary to what many prophets of doom believe, all is not lost, for there is every reason to hope - indeed there is now more reason to hope than ever before. Man has had to walk this sad and difficult path of self-destruction in order to learn the true value of the priceless gift of life, and the awesome responsibility of knowledge. Learning is by far the hardest task facing any man or woman, and true knowledge never comes cheaply, for it can only be acquired through the rigorous experiences of life. There is no highway to heaven, and no easy solution to the problems facing all of humanity.

What depresses men and women most today, and what is therefore the greatest cause of apathy and inertia, is the unconscious realisation that the many false ideals they have held so close to their hearts, through their fear and inherent laziness, must now be replaced by a sane and responsible approach if global disaster is to be avoided. People’s sense of depression arises because they feel that they do not know which way to turn, or what to think. But the one thing that will not help any of us is that humanity continues in its utterly insane persistence at attempting to buy time, for on the full moon of June 1995 time had already run out. Humanity now has its back most firmly up against the wall - it is now or never. It is precisely within this grim state of affairs that lies man’s hope for a bright new world - a world in which peace and abundance will once again be the common heritage of all life upon this planet.

However, this bright new world is not about to appear out of the mist. Such a world will have to be planned and worked for. Therefore action is the order of the day, and sound sensible thought is called for. Panic or despondency will do nothing to improve the situation, and nor will it help to continue to place our hopes in Big Brother. Man today is the product of his own doing, and so too is the destruction that has crippled the planet. No-one, no matter what their claims may be, can release humanity from its responsibility now that man has come of age, and therefore the day has dawned when he must take full responsibility for his actions in the past and face squarely the future. To take responsibility for the past is the true meaning of ‘the Day of Reckoning’, and to face the future squarely is the challenge posed by ‘the Dawn of the New Age’.

What is the Dawn of the New Age? It is an age that is already upon us, for the tide of evolution cannot be stemmed, and the forces of destiny cannot be avoided. Man must, and will be forced into having to acknowledge, firstly, that all of life is interrelated, interactive and interdependent; and secondly, because life is interconnected, none of us can survive unless people in all walks of life start to drop their sense of gross separativeness, their socio-ethical, racial and politico-religious prejudices in making a sincere and concerted effort at working together in the spirit of intelligent co-operation towards the well-being of the greater whole. It is sheer madness to assume that you alone can survive when you are busy killing the world around you.

Everyone of us, no matter whom and what we are, and no matter what our role within the world around us may be, will have to choose. The only thing that remains to be seen is how many will choose to follow the ways of the old and perish, and how many will choose to fight for the new knowing that unless they fight they will perish along with the rest. Should the majority of humanity decide to face the challenge currently confronting us, we will survive; but if humanity continues to ignore what is transpiring today in the hope that the challenge will just disappear, humanity will be forced to learn through the pain of loss.

What can we as individuals do? The only thing we can do is to lead by example in taking those actions that do foster and support intelligent co-operation with all concerned as we, each in our own way, and in whatever walk of life we find ourselves, strive towards playing our own unique roles in creating a new world order, an order in which peace and plenty will once again bring harmony to all life upon our wonderful and breathtakingly beautiful planet. To this end it is of vital importance that we take heart and courage, for never before in the history of life upon Earth have the stakes been so high, and never before has the opportunity for humanity been so awesome. But the outcome lies in the hands of each and every individual the world over. You who are gathered here for this congress are individuals, and the decisions you make, the conclusions you arrive at, your every action as well as your motive for your actions, will collectively ripple out from here to impact upon all around you, here, and wherever you come from, and because you are a unit of the One Life, the consequences of your actions will impact upon you too, for such is the nature of the interrelationship of life. If you are attending this congress to fight for a better life for yourselves, then realize that there is only One Life, only one humanity, and therefore if you wish for a better life than the one you have now, then you must fight to uplift all of life, for you are a unit of the greater whole. If the greater whole is uplifted, then so too are you; if the greater whole suffers, you too must and will suffer.

I salute you in the name of service,
Théun Mares
Toltec nagal

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21
Jun

Théun Mares Guidance on Being Vulnerable

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Question:

Théun, years ago you said it gave you the creeps to look into my eyes and asked if there was anything about me which was natural. I admitted later on that I didn’t like what I saw in my own eyes.

Having shared about this with a friend recently, we agreed we would both practice looking into our eyes in the mirror every day. Here is what has come up for me.

I saw anger, a person who feels threatened by everyone and a certain disdain. I don’t know how much of this is feeling and how much is interpretation by the mind. I already knew that I have a lot of anger inside me and I’m glad that I have started to see it and accept it.

Another thing that happened though, was that I looked at my left eye and acknowledge how I feel about it being closed more than the right one. I felt at that moment ugly and hard-done-by. Why is it always ME who has to be different. This opened a can of worms. Why did I have to have such a high voice as a kid, that I sounded like a girl? Why did I have to have acne more than anyone else? Why did it have to be me who had the thickest glasses of them all. And why did I have to be a twin, being called “the twin” by others and never by my name? I now can feel how much anger at life I have inside me from feeling constantly singled out and treated unfairly. I can also see where the “I will hurt you before you can hurt me” behaviour came from and why one of my friends on Evolving Relationship once called me the eye of mordor. LOL Because the first thing people said to or about me was about the things I felt most embarrassed about, i.e. my weakest spots. Children would say it TO me (name calling) and adults would say it ABOUT me to each other (when they talk to each other about you, as if you weren’t there). It seems I learnt to do the same thing (go straight for the weaknesses in others) because I felt unconsciously that everyone else was doing the same to me. If the first thing they do to me is expose me, why shouldn’t I do the same to them?

Any sort of weakness in me is therefore an attack point and has to be avoided. Is this the reason/one reason why I was so totally cut off from my emotions until recently? Because showing emotions makes me appear more vulnerable?

Am I on the right track? Even if I’m not, I’m glad I’m finding that emotions DO exist inside me. LOL Acknowledging what I saw in my eyes also seemed to change my perception almost straight away, so that now what I see doesn’t seem as bad as before. But I have hidden my emotions so well, that I know there must be a lot more and that I have only scratched the surface.

Is there any guidance you can give me on this?

With much love
The Eye of Mordor

Théun’s Guidance:

:) My friend, you have been learning so much, and therefore changing so much since we last met, and this is very, very good. But now you must learn to give yourself HONEST credit for the long way you have already covered. You are now far more open and honest than you were before. And for the first time you are looking at your behaviour OBJECTIVELY. This, my friend, is half the battle already won! :)

It is true that you have within you much suppressed anger at life, and it is equally true that you have disdain. Your anger comes from not understanding why you have called forth the challenges in your life that you have. And your disdain comes from trying to rise above your challenges by acting as if you are somehow superior to others and that nothing can TOUCH you. And in this lies the answer to why you have shut out your emotions as well as your true feelings - I am UN-TOUCH-ABLE, I am UNABLE to TOUCH or to be TOUCHED, I do not feel! And because I do not feel, I cannot be hurt.

Realise, my friend, that we all have two options within life. Either we become closed and defensive, in which case we become INVULNERABLE and live a “safe and protected” life; or we choose to be vulnerable, in which case we WILL be hurt, we WILL be vulnerable, but we nevertheless live a FULL and a RICH life! The choice is ours.

You long ago chose the first way. Now you NEED to choose the alternative - the choice to become open and vulnerable. In doing so you will be challenged, for sure, for whenever we make a decision power immediately challenges us. LOL! But when the hurt starts to come you can turn it around by helping you to find the UNDER-STANDING that you have always lacked, and as that understanding begins to come you will find your heart becoming ever more open, until finally you will find yourself beginning to act, physically, emotionally and mentally, in ways that are ever more life-supportive, not only towards yourself, but also towards all of life around you. Technically speaking, you will have started to act with unconditional love. :)

What will help you greatly from this point on is to remember at all times the rule of the hunt. “Power shows no mercy, and grants no quarter. The winner takes all!” So when people lash out at you, remember that they are merely the instruments of power, and therefore it is really POWER challenging you to FIGHT for yourself! But power shows NO mercy, and grants NO quarter! So do NOT EXPECT mercy, and do NOT EXPECT to be given even one small quarter! LOL! But if you FIGHT with every FIBRE of your being, your strength, your courage and your belief in yourself, you, the winner, will take all the GIFTS, the spoils of battle. :)

Being a warrior, my friend, and learning to BE-COME a warrior is not for the faint-hearted, but I can honestly say from my own experience, that for me there is no other way in which to live! B-:)

With all my love and my warmth,
Your fellow warrior and friend,
Théun

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18
Jun

Illusion vs Feeling

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Question:

How does one discriminate between illusion and feeling?

Théun’s Answer:

Illusion is born from selective perception, in other words, ASSUMED UNDERSTANDING based upon what you THINK you know. The trick is to NOT-DO your perception, that is, STALK your perception by allowing the FEELING to guide you, WITHOUT trying to force a square peg into a round hole, just BECAUSE it seems to FIT your view of the world! Our hearts NEVER lie to us, but the mind’s INTERPRETATION of that feeling is something ELSE!

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16
Jun

Théun Mares on Forbearance and Unconditional Love

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Question:

Théun, I would like to ask about forbearance, and how this relates to unconditional love versus conditional love?

Théun’s Answer:

The greatest gift in FORBEARANCE is learning to LET GO! Once we have learned to let go, INTENT becomes ACTIVE, intent being unconditional love in action! But people are normally so BUSY setting their “intent” on wanting to have life on their own terms that not only do they keep themselves STUCK, but so too does forbearance become a living nightmare! Surprising? Not really when one comes to realize that ANY action, including CONDITIONAL love, MUST be reflected back to us by the world around us!

But the MYSTERY surrounding INTENT is that INTENT is NOT based upon CONDITIONS! Humanity finds this so hard to LEARN! And thus people make statements like, “But I AM setting my intent, so bloody well MAKE it happen! But I AM being a good boy, so REWARD me! But I AM on the Warrior’s Path, so of course I should be treated differently!” etc., etc., etc. In short, “Can’t LIFE see that I AM striving to MEET the CONDITIONS in my life, so what is its problem in meeting MY set of conditions?”

However, true intent becomes active once we have learned that MIRRORS work BOTH ways! Conditional love is reflected. Unconditional love is reflected.

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15
Jun

Théun Mares on the Last Battle

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Question:

Théun, in looking at the world situation today, together with the natural disasters that are occurring, am I right in thinking that this is a result of all our ugly thoughts coalescing within the web of life? Or am I totally off the wall in thinking this?

Théun’s Answer:

You are not really as off the wall as you think, my friend. But it is MORE than just the effect of our ugly thoughts coming together; it is also the effect of our ugly actions coming to a climax. People smile quietly to themselves when I speak of Atlantis and the unresolved battles of that time, but whether they believe me or not, it is a FACT that cannot be wished away. At the time of Atlantis we did the only SANE thing we could do at THAT time - we RETREATED from the battle. We did not RUN AWAY from the challenge, as such, but humanity as a whole was still such a tiny helpless INFANT that the only sane thing to do was to take the CHILD and RETREAT the best we could! Yet, in doing so, the CAUSES of that time were not FACED and RESOLVED and, as always happens in such instances, our HISTORY followed us to become those EFFECTS which have become the CAUSES of today’s EFFECTS!

I have been saying for a long time now that the resultant TENSIONS building up within the web of life are truly STAGGERING, and that from a seer’s perspective, a repeat of Atlantis APPEARS to be inevitable! And should it come to this, then this time round we have nowhere to run to - this time round we are going to HAVE to stand our ground and fight it out!

The planet, a life-form with its own evolution, has had enough of humanity’s greed, plundering and whole-scale destruction and, as a result, is beginning to rebel in the form of hurricanes, volcanic activity and earth-quakes in an endeavour to CORRECT the forces of nature which have been, and continue to be, so utterly unbalanced by humanity’s actions. It is going to get worse! Adding to this planetary turmoil is the fact that the MINERAL kingdom, which is part of the ORGANIC evolution on this planet, is preparing itself for a MASSIVE CRISIS point, call it an INITIATION, if you prefer. From what I can see, the physical planet’s own turmoil is providing for the mineral kingdom the IDEAL circumstances in which to call forth its initiation, which, again from what I can make out, will come in the FORM of fire! So we can expect more and more volcanic activity from within the earth, and uncontrollable land fires for the surface!

So where to from here? Only HUMANITY can fight this battle and turn it around. People like you and me can do what we can by leading by example, and we MUST, otherwise there is NO hope, but more than that we cannot do! All now hangs in the balance, and a mighty balance it is! Will humanity WAKE-UP in time, SEIZE its fleeting moment of chance, and BECOME the RESPONSIBLE ADULT it is meant to be? Or will humanity continue to SNOOZE in its COMPLACENCY whilst continuing to hand its power over to Big Brother, Mother’s Awareness, and ultimately the Old Sorcerers? Only time will tell! If humanity wakes up we CAN and WILL manifest a bright NEW world. If humanity continues to snooze, we are in for a most TERROR-ABLE time! We will witness whole-scale destruction like NEVER before, perhaps even the end of life as we now know it upon this planet, for as the Guardians have forewarned, THIS TIME NOW will be the DEFINITIVE turning-point!

Am I a prophet of doom? LOL! No! Just a prophet that is looking OBJECTIVELY at the REALITY of the FACTS! I am not just being poetic, or romantic, or dramatic when I have been saying that my BIGGEST challenge within this lifetime in terms of the work I am doing is a DESPERATE race AGAINST time! What are my own feelings on the future? I feel optimistic, but NOT in a complacent way. I would be lying to you if I were to say I feel no fear! I am fearful because I can see that we are going to be HIT very, VERY HARD, before humanity becomes WILLING to wake up! But I feel optimistic in the sense that we are today FAR BETTER equipped for the battle on hand than we were in the days of Atlantis. For a start - humanity is no longer an INFANT that needs to be PROTECTED at all costs. Humanity has come of age, and is therefore an ADULT that CAN be MOBILISED into ACTION if pushed hard enough!

This is where I am keeping my focus - we CAN, and SOMEHOW we WILL! Man has this god-like ABILITY to perform MIRACLES when faced with an act of survival! :) So let us keep our focus on what EACH and EVERY ONE of us CAN DO on a DAILY basis in PRE-PARING ourselves AND others for the challenges that are upon us. I see it as an ENORMOUS opportunity to HASTEN our own personal evolution, and I see it also as an AWESOME responsibility to the One Life that has GRANTED us this truly STUPENDOUS PRIVILEGE of being ABLE and WILLING to each play our part in writing the FUTURE of our humanity! So, yes, I may be fearful of what lies ahead, but, by the same token, I will also not change my life for any other! I would be a fool if I did not fear! But I would be an even greater fool if I were wishing for a different life to the one I have, to the one WE have! LOL!

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12
Jun

The Prerequisite for Forgiveness

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Question:

Theun, firstly, let me express my gratitude to you and the Toltec Legacy Team for all the efforts and love in creating this teaching facility! It is a great pleasure for me to meet you again! It is you and your HONESTY and WARMTH I have been looking for since I can remember. Thank you, Theun! Will I have the STRENGTH to face the TRUTH and really learn about myself? Well, I HOPE I do … for it is not something quite pleasant looking into the “mirror” at the moment.

During the last retreat I asked you for guidance about the tumor I have had in my back (between 4th and 5th vertebrae). The tumor was removed (by operation), but I wanted to know what that dis-ease meant. You were very clear then, that my dis-ease is very much related to me feeling unworthy and not deserving. I didn’t grasp the meaning of what you said back then, but time passed and I started seeing what I think now is the true expression of my unworthiness. Briefly, it is my “belief” that I “deserve” a “better life”, that is, a much easier life, and certainly not the challenges I encounter. LOL!

When I was a child, I remember that whenever I did something “wrong”, I was very afraid of the consequences (maybe because my father was a scary person to me LOL!) and prayed for forgiveness, either my parents or God, or both, if what I had done was too bad :) . But since then I have this habit of “believing” that all wrong is fixed by enough “tears” and “prayers”. Needless to say, this habit has made me such a victim and person full of self-pity, that (put it gently) I am not too proud of what I have become. e.g. my wife had to hold my hand when my tumor was discovered … and I was playing the hard hero LMAO! I can go on: I am still a child emotionally and have to take care of two children :) , I lack self-discipline (and I thought I was like a special soldier made of iron :) ) I have become really good in manipulating people and lying to myself, I am lazy, etc. I have started work on these (where does one really start from, with all this “record”? LOL!), and it is slow, but it feels great when I do a tiny little step (well, I don’t have any giant steps so far :) )

Originally I am born in Bulgaria, but the situation in my country was getting tougher and tougher after the communism was destroyed, and most of my countrymen, including myself, were thinking of escaping the country. So, in order to do that and be a successful person with a much easier life, I used an “opportunity” and came to the UK. That “opportunity” consisted of starting a fake PhD in Bulgaria, while, in reality, I was doing a PhD in the UK. The fake-ness of the PhD in Bulgaria consisted of me receiving money from the University in Bulgaria, while I was also receiving money from the University in the UK. At the moment it is impossible for the administration to discover my illegal actions, but now again, I am afraid of the consequences this has and might have on my life. Now that the crime is done, I am not asking you to hold my hand or tap me on the shoulder for what I have done (enough of this fake-ness!). I also know from your books that life will take from me what I have taken illegally, and will give it back to where it belongs. But I can’t be in peace with myself for what I have done - I was thinking of donating the amount I stole to that Bulgarian University, but that wouldn’t undo what I have done. Plus, I might decide (after donating the money) that I have become a saint of some sort … and I have already had enough of this bullshit too :) The experience tells me that I should be VERY CARE-FULL with how I progress in life, for this tells a lot about my behaviour so far, but is there anything else I should be looking for, Theun?

Also, do you think I have really grasped your guidance, or is it me re-producing my folly?

Théun’s Guidance:

Welcome, my friend! :) And thank you for your kind words.

First let me reassure you that you have indeed finally begun to see your folly for what it really is, and I might add that I am very happy for BOTH our sakes that you have! LOL! The last time I met you I found it truly difficult to remain impeccable with you, for you were so full of prejudice and self-importance that you nauseated me! LAMOF!

The sense of unworthiness I saw in you then does indeed stem from your belief that because you were somehow denied a “better” life you are the victim of everybody and everything! But because of your severe self-importance I could also see that in actual fact you had no REASON to believe that you deserve a better life, AND what is more, you KNOW it! LOL! Now your huge confession brings proof to bear upon what I had seen but of which I had no proof at the time. :) Interesting, no? You were determined to HIDE your sins from everyone including yourself, even to the point of attending a retreat with a seer! LOL! Now I call that BRAVADO, even if not exactly COURAGE! LOL! BUT……….to your credit - you came to the retreat nonetheless! :)

So you cannot come to peace with your past? And I am not at all surprised, for you STILL do not have the necessary HUMILITY to ACCEPT yourself for who and what you are. Secretly inside, now that your guilty conscience has caught up with you, you long to turn back the clock and to undo the wrong you committed. But did you only do wrong with the university in Bulgaria? Is it not true that if we are being unimpeccable in one area of our lives then we are also being unimpeccable in ALL areas of our lives? Hmmm? And, in any case, WHO said you committed a wrong? Is this not self-judgement at work? And if you judge yourself, then are you not also judging the world around you? And is JUDGEMENT a life-supportive act?

So what are we REALLY talking about, my friend? Are we merely talking about you having been clever enough to swindle a few bucks out of the university of Bulgaria? Or is your REAL crime against the spirit of man your supreme sense of judgement, and your desire to be better than everyone else?

My dear friend, I know I am being utterly ruthless with you, but it is YOU who asked for guidance, and above all, it is YOUR sense of guilt we are having to deal with here. So if you REALLY want to learn to come to PEACE with your past, then the ONLY way in which you can do this, is to strive with EVERY FIBRE of your being to find the necessary HUMILITY to LEARN from your folly, NOT in the sense of exonerating yourself from your past, for NONE of us can do this, but in the sense of GIVING BACK to life what was never yours for the TAKING! And I am NOT just talking about the university and money! I am talking about EACH and EVERY act of yours in which you JUDGED others because of judging yourself, and thereby ROBBING them of their innate sense of HUMAN-NESS.

There is only ONE way, my friend - only ONE way in which we CAN learn to FORGIVE ourselves for our fumbling and stumbling in learning. There is only ONE way - learn to open your HEART and to EMBRACE ALL of life without prejudice and without judgement! In other words, LEARN to make your EVERY act an act of unconditional love! And in this you MUST start with yourself, for ALL charity starts at home! :) Unless you can love yourself unconditionally, without prejudice and without judgement, you will continue to make impossible demands upon life, and you will end up hating yourself more and more, and in that hating you will project your self-hatred more and more upon the world around you. And thus the cancer will continue to manifest and will continue to grow.

One final word, my friend. I said welcome! And I MEANT it, for I NEVER say anything I do not mean! B-:) Be at peace as from this day onward, for what have you got to lose now? :) Once we are at the bottom of the pit, we are at the bottom of the pit! And from there, there is only ONE way to go - UP! So take heart and take courage! Whilst you are still alive, you still have MUCH to offer life! Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Make of it what you will, for it is not yet too late to start afresh by living like a warrior from now on, RE-MEMBER-ING always that angels do not make very good warriors. :)

With warm regards,
Théun

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10
Jun

The Folly of Big Brother

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From Théun:

Friends, the following letter is an actual letter sent by the Michigan Department of Environmental Quality, State of Michigan. It beautifully portrays the utter stupidity of Big Brother in its attempts at controlling all of life!

I read the letter:

SUBJECT: DEQ File No.97-59-0023;
T11N;
R10W, Sec. 20;
Montcalm County

Dear Mr. DeVries:

It has come to the attention of the Department of Environmental Quality that there has been recent unauthorized activity on the above referenced parcel of property. You have been certified as the legal landowner and/or contractor who did the following unauthorized activity: Construction and maintenance of two wood debris dams across the outlet stream of Spring Pond.

A permit must be issued prior to the start of this type of activity. A review of the Department’s files shows that no permits have been issued.

Therefore, the Department has determined that this activity is in violation of Part 301, Inland Lakes and Streams, of the Natural Resource and Environmental Protection Act, Act 451 of the Public Acts of 1994, being sections 324.30101 to 324.30113 of the Michigan Compiled Laws, annotated.

The Department has been informed that one or both of the dams partially failed during a recent rain event, causing debris and flooding at downstream locations. We find that dams of this nature are inherently hazardous and cannot be permitted. The Department therefore orders you to cease and desist all activities at this location, and to restore the stream to a free-flow condition by removing all wood and brush forming the dams from the stream channel. All restoration work shall be completed no later than January 31, 2003.

Please notify this office when the restoration has been completed so that a follow-up site inspection may be scheduled by our staff. Failure to comply with this request or any further unauthorized activity on the site may result in this case being referred for elevated enforcement action.

We anticipate and would appreciate your full cooperation in this matter.

Please feel free to contact me at this office if you have any questions.

Sincerely,
David L. Price,
District Representative Land and Water Management Division

Here is the response sent back:

Re: DEQ File No. 97-59-0023; T11N; R10W, Sec. 20; Montcalm County.

Dear Mr. Price,

Your certified letter dated 12/17/02 has been handed to me to respond to.

I am the legal landowner but not the Contractor at 2088 Dagget, Pierson, Michigan. A couple of beavers are in the (State unauthorized) process of constructing and maintaining two wood “debris” dams across the outlet stream of my Spring Pond. While I did not pay for, authorize, nor supervise their dam project, I think they would be highly offended that you call their skillful use of nature’s building materials “debris.” I would like to challenge your department to attempt to emulate their dam project any time and/or any place you choose. I believe I can safely state there is no way you could ever match their dam skills, their dam resourcefulness, their dam ingenuity, their dam persistence, their dam determination and/or their dam work ethic.

As to your request, I do not think the beavers are aware that they must first fill out a dam permit prior to the start of this type of dam activity.

My first dam question to you is: (1) Are you trying to discriminate against my Spring Pond Beavers, or (2) do you require all beavers throughout this State to conform to said dam request? If you are not discriminating against these particular beavers, through the Freedom of Information Act, I request completed copies of all those other applicable beaver dam permits that have been issued. Perhaps we will see if there really is a dam violation of Part 301, Inland Lakes and Streams, of the Natural Resource and Environmental Protection Act, Act 451 of the Public Acts of 1994, being sections 324.30101 to 324.30113 of the Michigan Compiled Laws, annotated.

I have several concerns. My first concern is; aren’t the beavers entitled to legal representation? The Spring Pond Beavers are financially destitute and are unable to pay for said representation — so the State will have to provide them with a dam lawyer. The Department’s dam concern that either one or both of the dams failed during a recent rain event, causing flooding, is proof that this is a natural occurrence, which the Department is required to protect. In other words, we should leave the Spring Pond Beavers alone rather than harassing them and calling them dam names.

If you want the stream “restored” to a dam free-flow condition please contact the beavers — but if you are going to arrest them, they obviously did not pay any attention to your dam letter, they being unable to read English.

In my humble opinion, the Spring Pond Beavers have a right to build their unauthorized dams as long as the sky is blue, the grass is green and water flows downstream. They have more dam rights than I do to live and enjoy Spring Pond. If the Department of Natural Resources and Environmental Protection lives up to its name, it should protect the natural resources (Beavers) and the environment (Beavers’ Dams).

So, as far as the beavers and I are concerned, this dam case can be referred for more elevated enforcement action right now. Why wait until 1/31/2003? The Spring Pond Beavers may be under the dam ice then and there will be no way for you or your dam staff to contact/harass them then.

In conclusion, I would like to bring to your attention a real environmental quality (health) problem in the area. It is the bears! Bears are actually defecating in our woods. I definitely believe you should be persecuting the defecating bears and leave the beavers alone. If you are going to investigate the beaver dam, watch your step! (The bears are not careful where they dump!)

Being unable to comply with your dam request, and being unable to contact you on your dam answering machine, I am sending this response to your dam office.

THANK YOU.

RYAN DEVRIES & THE DAM BEAVERS

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8
Jun

Théun Mares Gives Guidance on Fraudulence

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Question:

Théun, I have come to see what a fraud I am because of constantly seeking approval. How do I now work with this? I have also come to see that perhaps I should go back into the corporate world which I ran away from after having been fired, because I can now clearly see that simply to make changes in my current business is not going to help me change my behaviour. I suppose the only thing that keeps me from forging ahead with this is my concern for my existing students. Yet unless I change my behaviour I fear I am only doing them harm rather than good.

Théun’s Guidance:

First of all, let us be clear on what is the cause of both fraudulence and approval seeking. Except for the rare case MOST frauds CHOOSE to indulge in this type of behaviour because they BELIEVE that if they are HONEST and UPFRONT it will be clear to others that they have nothing of REAL value to offer! This is where fraud starts, namely, PRETENDING to be something you are not! But, of course, this is not enough, for deep down inside you STILL believe that even WITH all of your pretense you are STILL not going to get what you want because you don’t deserve it, or you will be denied it in some way. And so starts the THEFT! If I can’t get what I WANT then I will get it by whatever means are open to me, even IF I have to STEAL it! One thing leads to another, and what starts off as a WANT soon enough becomes justified as a NEED, and thus, like all wayward behaviour, fraudulence soon enough becomes quite ADDICTIVE and therefore COMPULSIVE!

Approval seeking is in fact the other side of the SAME coin, namely, believing that you have nothing of REAL value to offer, and so you simply MUST get approval by whatever means are open to you, for it is only by getting approval that you feel okay about yourself! Needless to say, even IF you get ALL the approval you are seeking, deep down inside you always STILL feel like you have nothing of value and therefore you WANT more and more, all the time convincing yourself that you NEED more and more! Again, this is hugely ADDICTIVE and COMPULSIVE! In the case of the outright FRAUD, the addiction manifests as the OPPRESSOR, or for the sake of simplicity, the VICTOR! In the case of the Approval Seeker, the addiction manifests as the VICTIM, or for the sake of simplicity, the UNLOVED, UN-APPRECIATED and UNDERPAID UNDER-DOG!

From what I have explained so far it should now not be too difficult for you to see how in the case of BOTH the Fraud and the Approval Seeker, both get EXTREMELY angry when their EXPECTATIONS are not met, or when their EFFORTS at getting what they believe they NEED are frustrated!

So what I am pointing out to you is the hole you have dug for yourself. I am pointing out to you how VERY ADDICTIVE and COMPULSIVE your behaviour has become! I am also pointing out to you that whilst CAUGHT in this MINDSET you simply CANNOT stop the behaviour because RATIONALLY you cannot see HOW to stop it! If you simply stop you EXPOSE yourself for being the Fraud and the Approval Seeker you are! And if you KEEP persisting in this behaviour you just feel worse and worse about yourself! But I am pleased to see that you HAVE in-deed DE-CIDED to put a stop to the behaviour even IF this exposes you in ways that you FEAR most DEEPLY! However, what is unclear to me at this point in time is whether you have ever REALLY acknowledged to yourself the extremely DEEP sense of SHAME you experienced at the time of having been exposed in the corporate world before you got fired from your job. But what I can see very CLEARLY is that AFTER this exposure you went ALL OUT to NEVER again be seen in such an unfavourable light! But what you have only NOW come to realise is that you have never RESOLVED this sense of shame, but merely swung to the opposite polarity of now being the BENIGN fraud, whilst SECRETLY having hoped that THIS was going to REGAIN for you your lost esteem in the eyes of other people, in other words, that people will once again APPROVE of you!

What has finally caught up with you is your HISTORY and your SELF-IMAGE which, in spite of WHICH polarity you are at, remains UNALTERED! You have simply carted your BAGGAGE from one pole to the other! So the ONLY way you CAN resolve your history as well as finally starting to dismantle your self-image is by going back into the corporate world and FACING the song and dance you created around yourself! However, although you are HEARING the challenge in this, your MIND has already started to ROMANTICISE it! I say this because you are STILL busy with approval seeking because I am not at all convinced that you truly wish to do this for YOU! Instead I see a man who is saying, “Okay, so that didn’t work, and this doesn’t work, but hey, if I roll over and play meek and mild, and if I tell my fellow apprentices how untrustworthy I am, my students will APPROVE of my so-called honesty. And if I admit to Théun that I have been a fraud, Théun will surely approve of my honesty. And if I do as I am told, everyone will see me as being so WILLING to mend my ways. And hey, I just KNOW that with everything I have learned over these past few years, the corporate world is just going to lap me up and ADORE me!”

Wrong, my friend! You are going to find yourself HUGELY challenged should you return to the corporate world, if in no other way, than in HOW you are going to FEEL about yourself being back there! Yet, I agree that there is NO better way for you to break free from the FIXATION of your mindset than to go FACE what you ran away from! And this is WHY you yourself can FEEL that making changes in your work is NOT going to make your problems go away!

You speak of harm, but the only REAL harm you are doing is harming YOURSELF, for no matter HOW wayward we may be in our behaviour, we can never NOT serve the unwavering purpose of the Unspeakable! Even if we ONLY serve by default, we STILL serve! Kahlil Gibran expresses this so well when he asks, “Can the murdered be unaccountable for his own murder?” But the answer is clear is it not? No-one can murder you if you don’t NEED to be murdered! And no-one can con you if you don’t NEED to be conned! LOL!

Regarding your concerns with respect to your students, what CON-CERNS are you referring to? If you KNOW within your heart of hearts that you have given your BEST, your ALL, then there is no harm in saying to your students, “That’s it! I am out of here!” If, on the other hand you KNOW that you have been leading them up the garden path, then once again, there is no harm in saying to them, “That’s it! I am out of here!” The only thing which CAN stop you in either case is your DESIRE for APPROVAL from OTHERS! My friend, the ONLY approval the warrior NEEDS is his OWN approval, meaning that within his heart of hearts he KNOWS he is being utterly IMPECCABLE, regardless what others may THINK or SAY about his actions! So, quite frankly, I don’t buy your so-called CON-CERNS! Let us just be honest and call a spade a shovel by saying this is much more about YOUR worry about YOUR social image and how this makes you feel about yourself! In fact, if you TRULY want to be HONEST with yourself, then ADMIT you don’t care a STUFF about dropping your students! Now that you have gotten to this point they just make you feel shit about yourself anyway! LOL!

In the final analysis, it does not matter much at all WHAT you decide to do! How can anything matter when everything in your life up until now has been mere FOLLY? Surely the ONLY thing that CAN matter is that you begin to CONTROL your FOLLY! And the ONLY way in which to DO this is to take EVERYTHING you THINK, FEEL and DO as being a matter of life and death, whilst at the SAME time acknowledging to yourself that it is ALL still folly, albeit now CONTROLLED FOLLY! LOL! The teachings are so GLAMOUROUS, not so, my friend? But oh, also so goddamned UNCOMPROMISING when it comes to having to put them into PRACTICE!

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